LIFE, DATING, AND THE ADULT INDUSTRY—ALSO POKEMON


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…ONE THING WE CAN ALL DO TO HELP WITH MENTAL HEALTH IN THE COMMUNITY IS TRYING TO BE UNDERSTANDING…

MENTAL HEALTH IS A BIG DEAL IN THE QUEER COMMUNITY. WHAT’S ONE THING WE CAN ALL DO TO MOVE IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION WITH THIS ISSUE?

I believe one thing we can all do to help with mental health in the community is trying to be understanding because we can learn about everyone’s issues and that’s always a good thing. But to understand the people gives insight on not just what someone is going through but how it affects the way they look at life and perspective.

And how we can notice the signs and try to reach out to people. Instead of judging people “right off the bat”. Compassion towards even just one person can go a long way!

IF YOU WERE TO DESCRIBE YOURSELF AS A MIXED DRINK, WHAT WOULD IT BE?

if I was a mixed drink I think I’d be a Screwdriver “Vodka-Orange Juice” because I can be sweet and easy-going, but I’m also witty and stand up for myself when needed and tend to say what comes to mind.

WHAT ARE SOME THINGS IN MEDIA THAT YOU’RE REALLY INTO RIGHT NOW?

Well! I just started playing league of legends a few fees ago my boyfriend (Aaron Lux) introduced me to it, and it’s a lot of fun! Some of the opposing teams though could be more progressive when it comes to LGBT topics. I also love Pokémon, I have Pokémon Go and I play Pokémon on my Nintendo 2DS.

“I ALSO LOVE POKÉMON, I HAVE POKÉMON GO AND I PLAY POKÉMON ON MY NINTENDO 2DS. ”

With music, nowadays, I really like Billie Elish, Lizzo, Cardi B, and Ke$ha! But I also really enjoy listening to Michael Jackson and The Red Hot Chillie Peppers.

For television, I like Shameless and Grey’s Anatomy! And when it comes to films I like anything comedy or horror, especially love Melissa McCarthy!

AMERICA HAS A TERRIBLE RECORD OF TREATING PEOPLE IN ANY KIND OF SEX WORK PARTICULARLY WELL. DO YOU THINK THAT’S SOMETHING THAT CAN CHANGE IN OUR LIFETIMES?

I’m hoping that’s something that will change over time, but with the internet being so vast more people are making amateur content, OnlyFans content, cam modeling that within a decade the people who are doing it now will be in their late 20s and 30s and I think it will be more socially acceptable!

“WORK IS WORK AND WHAT YOU OFFER OR HOW YOU USE YOUR BODY SHOULDN’T AFFECT ANYONE BUT YOURSELF.”

You will have the select people who still iffy on the subject. Work is work and what you offer or how you use your body shouldn’t affect anyone but yourself. (And if you’re in a monogamous relationship, your partner… but still that’s private between the two of you) but I definitely think there will be a change in our life for it!

“WORK IS WORK AND WHAT YOU OFFER OR HOW YOU USE YOUR BODY SHOULDN’T AFFECT ANYONE BUT YOURSELF.”

YOU WORK PROFESSIONALLY IN ENTERTAINMENT AND CREATE YOUR OWN CONTENT. IT’S A TREND THAT SEEMS TO BE ON THE RISE. WHAT’S APPEALING TO YOU IN DOING IT BOTH WAYS SIMULTANEOUSLY?

Well, I’m kinky a little bit.. so I like to be able to explore things on my OnlyFans that some of the other models aren’t really into—I like to snowball.

But, working professionally helps me creating my own content also and learning camera angles and such. And just being on camera in the studio is kinda cool! But also having the freedom to post what I want on my OnlyFans also is cool too 😀 I like being able to do both.. it generates more income and puts more of me out there on the web.

DO YOU FIND THAT YOUNGER GENERATIONS HAVE A DIFFERENT IDEA OF WHAT IT MEANS TO BE AN ADULT ENTERTAINER? AND HOW HAS THAT IMPACTED YOUR DATING LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS?

Ashtin with boyfriend, Aaron LuxAshtin with boyfriend, Aaron Lux

Hmm. Well, I usually date guys younger than me. 18-20ish but I’ve dated a couple of dudes my age or a little above. I think the younger guys are more okay with it because they think it’s “cool” or something “different” and have the idea that it’s just a job… but also depends on cuz some people who are younger take it as an open relationship which is something I don’t want.

“ I THINK THE YOUNGER GUYS ARE MORE OKAY WITH IT BECAUSE THEY THINK IT’S ‘COOL’ OR SOMETHING ‘DIFFERENT’”

I’ve had some good and some bad experiences but overall it’s been good, the relationship I’m in now is awesome my boyfriend is 18 and he’s open-minded and we have monogamy and a “typical” relationship so to speak that a monogamous couple would have.

But I’ve also dated guys who thought because I do “porn” that they don’t have to be faithful or I won’t care if they flirt with other guys.. which kinda Hurt

YOU MENTIONED THAT YOU’RE ALSO AN ARTIST IN OTHER RESPECTS, WHERE/WHAT/WHO DO YOU TURN TO FOR INSPIRATION IF YOU FIND YOURSELF LACKING?

Yes, with music. And tbh, I write when I’m feeling emotion. But artists I look up to are NF and Eminem. They tell a story and I love it.

But mostly, it’s all about mood when I find myself in a state of mind whether it be depressed, upset, or angry…. I try to sit down and write it. And write a story that fits the color of the mood. And when I’m happy I tend to just enjoy being happy. 😀https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?visual=true&url=https%3A%2F%2Fapi.soundcloud.com%2Ftracks%2F697810198&show_artwork=true&callback=YUI.Env.JSONP.yui_3_17_2_1_1573533480535_31098&wmode=opaque

YOU RECENTLY POSTED WHILE PLAYING LEAGUE OF LEGENDS, RUNNING INTO SOME HOMOPHOBIC PLAYERS. IS IT RARER NOW? I KNOW EVEN RECENTLY THE GAMING COMMUNITY HAS COME UNDER FIRE FOR THEIR INTOLERANCE.

Well… it’s bad… still. But I tend to say stuff back when needed, the site did send reports that they took action on the accounts that we reported for homophobic remarks. I don’t think it’s enough to necessarily drive me away but it’s a little toxic, I think as a community with gaming if we run from it it’s only going to become more problematic and if we stand up for our-self and push to make a change it will.

“I DON’T THINK IT’S ENOUGH TO NECESSARILY DRIVE ME AWAY BUT IT’S A LITTLE TOXIC”

But the only way to do that is to push through it and slowly help society become more tolerant. Of course, everyone won’t be… BUT, a small change is still change. And you don’t hear the mics of the other team which is good and you can turn off your mic and from hearing others also which is a plus

IF YOU COULD GO BACK IN TIME AND TELL YOURSELF ONE THING, WHEN AND WHAT WOULD IT BE?

Don’t move from your dad’s.. when I was 18 I moved back in with my mom because a boy I fell for was closer to her house and I wanted to be there for him.. and I got my heart destroyed by him and it started my voyage across America.

“SO I HAVE NO REGRET…”

If I would have stayed here I would of went to community college and gotten more time with my father before he passed.. but on the contrary, I wouldn’t have gotten to experience everything I experienced since then and seen so much of the country.

So I have no regret, but I do think that could have changed the course of history for me. But I’m starting to build back up and look into school so I’m happy where I’m at now.

IF YOUR LIFE WAS A REALITY SHOW, WHAT WOULD IT BE CALLED, AND WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR CATCHPHRASE DURING THE OPENING WOULD BE?

I think I would call it, Why me? And the catchphrase would be “Oh?” And it would have a lot of weird funny things that happen and instead of getting upset or mad I would just be like “oh?” And shrug

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